We all want to be part of something
big and long-lasting. Pyramids big in size and forever-and-ever in
duration. I am no different.
This new school needed a new school
song, an anthem, if you will. Mrs. Wiggins, the itinerant music teacher,
helped each class draft four verses set to a tune she had written out on the
chalk board. Then, in Assembly (you remember Assembly, don’t you), each
class sang their version. Somehow, we voted and a winner was chosen from
each grade-level. Then, the grade-level winners had a sing-off (we were
way ahead of American Idol) and a winner was chosen from the whole school.
Wouldn’t you know Mrs. Mitchell’s
Third Grade Class won! To this day, I can still sing it:
Teachers are super; Children are smart; we know that Cobras can’t miss!
Colors of blue and also of gold—they sure make King Cobras hiss!
We’ll always work hard, we’ll never stop. We’ll keep
Alas, the song did not catch on like
I had imagined it would. It is not sung on national holidays or before
major sporting events. It is not even sung at King School
anymore; several years ago they changed their mascot to something else- a lion,
I think. So much for forever fame for me and my classmates.
We all recognize that we should pour
our energy into things that matter, really important things, the valuable
things in life. Steven Covey refers to this as the big rocks in a jar-
there are other ways of describing it. I like to think of it as foreverness.
Several years ago, I knew a man who
worked as a life coach on the side. I sat down with him and over the
course of several weeks we developed a “Vision Worksheet”. That sounds
very grand. I think of it more as Post-It notes for my life; reminders of
what I want for my life and what is important to me.
Perhaps is sounds kind of
silly. Or redundant—don’t you know what’s important to you? I have
found it to be really helpful, actually, because, let’s face it, this world is
really big and busy- it is easy to get distracted or blown off course.
Having something tangible to match my decisions up against keeps me on
course.
A recent example of this as a trip
to see Disney’s Princess
Wishes on Ice. That may seem a stretch, but hang on. A
friend had won four tickets and invited me and my niece to the show; however, I
already had plans for the evening (somehow Princess
Wishes was not on my radar- imagine that!). My initial response
was to decline- I had something else in mind and I wanted to check it off my
list. But then I remembered my worksheet. On it, I note
relationships that are particularly important to me. My friend is one of
these priority relationships for me; my niece is another. Added to that,
this friend has been having a hard time of late and has been a bit
isolated. She is getting help and becoming healthier, and I want to
encourage that. When I paired up my options with my priorities the decision
was a no-brainer. I was off to Princess
Wishes.
This time, I got it right and made a
choice in favor of foreverness- specifically relationships I value and hope to
maintain for the long-haul. I am sure I will get it wrong again,
sometimes, too; it is bound to happen. But hopefully, with my life
Post-Its, I will get it right more than I get it wrong and slowly, over time,
my life will fill up with the richness, fullness and satisfaction of those
things which matter most to me.